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You love your guy and feel like you pretty much know him and all of his quirks, and yet inevitably, your boyfriend does things during the course of the relationship that make you go “Huh?” That’s because there are guy-unique love habits you’re not privy to.

The more serious a relationship gets, the less a man will reassure you.

When you and your sweetie were in the early stages of romance, he might have randomly shown up at your door with flowers or called to check in while he was out with the boys. Nowadays, you have to nudge him to pick up chocolates for your birthday. What gives?

Well for one, back then, he was trying to woo you. “During courtship, a man will pull out all the stops to win you over,” explains Scott Haltzman, MD. Once he’s certain you’re smitten, he doesn’t need to conduct these little love tests anymore.  “When a man is confident his relationship is solid, he enters a comfort zone. He’ll stop doing those extras because he doesn’t need them and assumes you don’t either.”

But relax. You can get the reassurance you need if you learn to look for it in other ways. “Men are more likely to rely on simple day-to-day actions rather than sweeping romantic gestures to say ‘I love you,’ ” says Dr. Haltzman. But if you’re not looking for these subtle signs, they’re easy to miss. Skipping a night out with friends to go to your great-aunt’s 95th birthday party might not seem as romantic as a pair of diamond earrings, but essentially the message is identical: He wants to make you happy.

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Guys always want to have sex with you…even in the midst of a fight.

The reason guys are always up for action — even if you’re not on speaking terms — is because sex and relationship satisfaction are not the same thing for them. “Most men are masters at compartmentalizing their feelings,” says Phillips.

See, for women, emotions run on a continuum. We have a sucky day at work or a misunderstanding with a friend and the residue from the experience affects how we feel for the rest of the day. The opposite holds true for men. “A man can tune out everything else and focus solely on the physical excitement and release of sex,” says Phillips.

Keep this in mind the next time your guy’s out-of-nowhere advance threatens to send you over the edge. The horn dog genuinely can’t help the fact that he’s physically turned on by you in that heated moment. But, hey, if you seriously need him to back off and listen to you, be up-front. Tell him that what would turn you on more than anything is resolving the issue at hand.

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He won’t warn you if the relationship is on the rocks.

Guys don’t spend a ton of man-hours pondering the state of your union or analyzing its ups and downs. “Men tend to let the little things that irritate them build and build and build without saying a word, because they don’t want to deal with the whole relationship drama,” explains Hughes. “Then suddenly, their frustrations snowball and they go into crisis mode, ready to end things.”

As a result, “it’s truly the woman’s responsibility to take the pulse of the relationship,” says Hughes. That doesn’t mean neurotically cornering your guy for a sit-down chat every time you get the slightest twinge things may be heading south. But if you sense your man’s acting really removed, check in.

If you’re still stumped weeks later, have the full-on powwow. Wait until you’re somewhere where eye contact can be kept to a minimum so he feels less threatened. (Think walking side by side instead of sitting across from each other at dinner.) Then ask him straight-out where you stand. You deserve answers, after all.

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